Random thoughts on Cheating

"Fuck You for cheating on me. Fuck you for reducing it to the word cheating. As if this were a card game, and you sneaked a look at my hand. Who came up with the term cheating, anyway? A cheater, I imagine. Someone who thought liar was too harsh. Someone who thought devastator was too emotional. The same person who thought, oops, he’d gotten caught with his hand in the cookie jar. Fuck you. This isn’t about slipping yourself an extra twenty dollars of Monopoly money. These are our lives. You went and broke our lives. You are so much worse than a cheater. You killed something. And you killed it when its back was turned."

David Levithan

Even the strongest person has a breaking point.

Being cheated on is so fucking heart-wrenching.

Being stabbed in your soul by a rusty unsharp blade.

Being put down by crushing waves of heartache.

At the thought of him seducing her, touching her,

caressing the back of her neck and slipping his fingers through her hair.

At the thought that what you mean to him can't refrain his lust.

At the thought of his lust itself.

At the thought that desire and passion vanishes away so fast.

That he will never feel again for you that animal desire he has to posses her.

Yep girls, for those of you who know the feeling, I just wanna say cheer up !

Men will be men, and there is no reason to feel so down.

I believe every woman will have to face it someday, because men have that one weakness, sex.

It doesn't mean he doesn't love you, it doesn't mean you are not beautiful or sexy to him, it just means men have a hard time resisting temptation, resisting fresh & new pussy when it's thrown at them.

Damn you will suffer ! Be prepared, it can be a pain very close to loss and grief.

This is a very personal point of view, and maybe a little backward, but I believe men and women are not build the same way, and that Love & sex can definitely be dissociated in men's minds.

So I understand that men will cheat more than women. And I choose to accept it in my mind, to lessen the pain and the shock if it happens to me.

But who cares really the reason why they cheat ? the result is just the same, we will always carry the scars and a deep sense of loss and grief from the betrayal.

Should we stay in a relationship with a cheater though ? Should we give him a second chance ? A second chance that can turn into a third and a fourth ?

Well, they say a cheater will always be a cheater.

Having cheated myself on someone I loved, I can honestly answer that this is not true. I had never cheated on anyone before and probably will never again. I mean, I am not even tempted, when I love a guy, there's just him in my mind, it is far from being a struggle. Being loyal and faithful just comes naturally.

Why did I do it anyway ? I met him while in a "relationship" with another guy, and if I already knew I was gonna leave the other guy for him, I just had to see the other guy a last time. I believe this kind of cheating can be forgiven, because it is an accident, and not a habit. It will break the other one's heart yes, but it can be healed by time and rebuilding trust, because there won't be any more cheating.

I believe you should give someone a second chance. Relationship should be based on something way deeper than the need to possess someone's body.

But what about the true cheaters, the ones that can't resist the appeal to fuck someone new once in a while ?

The ones that break your heart once, and never let it heal because they keep reopening the wound ?

From what a very close friend of mine told me once, most men are cheaters. Most men indulge in it once in a while.

So I just wonder sometimes if we are not doing everything wrong, teaching from a younger age little girls that there will be a prince charming that will make them their wife and live for them ever after.

Maybe we shouldn't demonize so much the fact of sometimes having sex with someone else than your partner. Maybe it won't hurt so bad if it is not forbidden. We could spare ourselves deceit, a whole lotta drama and sharp heartaches.

I have spoken a few times with people involved in open relationships. People married for 10, 20 years, and still happy together, and still meaning the world to each other.

Or maybe this is also a bunch of BS, and we should just not tolerate to be cheated on. Like, you cheated on me ? get the fuck out of my life you dog.

But the problem is also us, women, as a kind. Because it is not just about the fact that men cheat on you, it is about the women they're cheating on you with.

What's that about ? what happens in our heads to let ourself be the reason of an another woman's pain ? We should be way more solidary as a gender. If only we had enough moral, self-respect and love for our kind.

Well, those were my thoughts of the day. As you can see I do not have an answer to give you. I, myself, have chosen to give a second chance in the past. It didn't turn out so well.

I would love to hear about your experiences and opinions.

Curvily yours,

Gipsy B.

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