This goes out to the beautiful girls

I met this amazing young girl, Olimpcia Desamour. She's American, living in NYC. She is the face & pen behind the blog Living Plus in the City.

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We instantly clicked, I loved her young, refreshing and sincere view on life and on being a curvy girl in our world today. Olimpcia is 18 years old. She is fashionable but before anything, she is honest, truthful and deep.

She speaks out on how it really feels to be overweight, to be a woman, she talks about insecurity and the struggle it is to build confidence without pretense.

She is who she is, embracing all her flaws.

So here is the first post she wrote for Curvily Yours.


I would like to start off by saying all women are beautiful, no matter what

shape, size, skin color, ethnicity.

But this post today is mostly for my plus size ladies.

I understand being plus size can be a little overwhelming at times and there is nothing

wrong with being insecure or just unsure about yourself.

But let’s be clear, we as beautiful thick curvy women do not need to do the most to prove that we are beautiful or

that we are comfortable in the skin we are in.

At the end of the day we don’t need to prove ourselves to anyone.

Let me dig a little deeper when I say there’s nothing wrong with being a little

insecure, I don’t mean self-hatred and loathing yourself.

I mean not being in certain things you put on your body simply because you aren’t quite comfortable with certain parts of your body.

There’s nothing wrong with changing your top because your arms just don’t look right in them.

But that doesn’t mean that you should completely hide your body in dark clothing that is two sizes too big or dark colors that

don’t look good against your skin because you feel as though it helps not stand out.

Also the whole black is slimming is a crock of bullshit.

I mean yes it is a tiny bit slimming, but don’t make your entire wardrobe just a black hole

because you feel like it will make you look more appealing or sexier.

I can say this because at one point that’s the only color I wore.

Every shirt, every dress, down to every sock I owned was black,

and at one point in my life, I genuinely hated that color.

Do not be afraid to wear sexy, colorful clothes that are revealing and show your skin.

Don’t get me wrong, I know it isn’t easy.

Just the other day I wore a tank top outside where you can visibly see my arms

and my shoulder stretch marks and all. At first I was super uncomfortable, and I wasn’t

even walking that far, but after about 20 minutes outside I realized that why should I care

about what people have to say or think about me. I am beautiful inside and out.

Another thing that has been bothering me. The way we overly sexualize ourselves, here again

to prove to the world that we are in fact comfortable in the skin we are in.

When I say overly sexualize ourselves I mean wearing clothing two sizes too small or clothing

that is extra revealing not because that is the style you love, but just so you can prove to everyone else

that your body isn’t an issue and that you are comfortable.

But I’m here to tell you ladies, that there is really absolutely no need for that.

Your confidence or lack of it will always speak for itself whether you’re

just speaking or walking to the store to buy a bag of mini snickers.

Let’s just be honest right now, wearing sexy clothing to prove that you are sexy doesn’t make you a curvy girl

with loads of confidence, if anything it just shows how insecure you are.

If you are an X-large or even a 5X don’t ever let your clothing define you and never try to hide your body.

You are beautiful and you should always embrace yourself for who you are and what you look like.

Clothes don’t and will never define you.

Whether you wear it two sizes too big or two sizes too small.

It’s all about how you carry yourself, your confidence glows from there.

So dress for YOU and noone else, don't show more or less than you would if you were totally happy with your body.

And work on building your confidence and learn to love yourself instead.

Also, we live in a the time period where big curvy girls are beginning to take over the world.

I know that having that beaming confidence may take a while to build up.

While that confidence builds up,

you need to understand what self-love is and begin to love yourself a little more every day.

Everything takes time.

but with the help of me and all the curvy ladies around the world, you will be able to do it.

Olimpcia Desamour